C: And I used to feel so overwhelmed by my feelings about things at home. It got so bad I sometimes just wanted to hit somebody. My husband, who's trained in martial arts, would let me take it out on him, so I'd punch him repeatedly on his arm and scream. And then I'd say, "Why doesn't that make me feel better?" And I'd actually feel much worse than before because I couldn't make my bad feelings go away.

C: Then, over time, I came to realize that my feelings are just that--feelings. Just because I have a feeling about certain things, my feelings don't define these things. Feelings and reality are not the same.

M: Yup. Your feelings about a past event, a person--anything--may come and go, even if the object is still there. And you may have a different feeling about the same object in the next moment.